Lesson 2:How to glow up your social skills even if you’re an introvert

  Lesson 2:How to glow up your social skills even if you’re an introvert

1)-Be true to yourself,your values and your character,don’t let othe rpeople change the way you are and you will meet your authentic match.

2)-Exposure effect-psychology show we like people the more we see them so sit near them and do the same clubs etc as this will lead to familiarity and then comfort so engage in shared experiences like sitting on the bus together or walking home together etc.

3)-Active Listening-make the other person feel heard and valued.Respond to the emotion not the content to develop a connection as people like those who understand them.

4)-Vulnerability loop-freindships deepen when you both share things that have emotional weight or are sentimental and personal to you.

5)-Mirroring-subtly mirroring someones energy,tone and interests,not in an obsessive way but in a way you show your interested in them.

6)-Us vs them bond-This one I can give you real life evidence,I feel like most of my freindships were built on a common dislike or enemy for example like a lesson or an ick.This is because negative emotions are more intense and when someone agrees with you it feels more secure.

7)-Using someones name- One of  the most powerful attention cues in our brains,it makes people feel noticed or valued however don’t over use it.

8)-Remember little things about other people-your brain interprets it as care and importance and remembering details shows your reliable as well as people loving to be understood and known.Do this by making mental notes,writing it down or associating it with them.

9)-Reflective listening-Look for hooks in their speech,don’t overthink and use it in a question,hooks often are the last 3 words or emphasised words.

-Turn Statements into open doors-instead of just saying cool or nice  turn comment into an open door to developing something further and asking more questions.

-Add  a soft reaction and be gentle like -oohs or aahs to show you understand and your not faking it.

10)-Notice little details and use praise-gives them a dopamine hit and shows you actively care and uses your observant nature as an introvert as an advantage.

11)-If your feeling insecure   switch your  self focus into curiousity so ask more about them to shift the focus back on to them to avoid you overthinking about yourself.

12)-Ride their energy,don’t force yours-mirror their tone and energy as itlle make you feel less awkwardly different.

13)-Parallel Prescence-Sometimes just realise that you don’t need to always fill a silence in,it can be comfortable when two people are doing their own thing but in eachothers prescence,this Is when the freindship has reached the comftorable stage and what we should all be striving for.

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