Lesson 5-5 life-changing lessons as a teen girl

 Lesson 5-5 life-changing lessons as a teen girl

Don’t be afraid to make mistakes,embrace them.

 Mistakes are not the end of the world-theyre the start of growth.

You need to be accountable and reflect on them whether its academic or personal and take inventory of what you've realised.

You cant just  acknowledge it but you need to focus on  integrating these lessons into your life as if you don’t ,youlle keep facing the same challenge over and over again and the cycle will persist.

Protect your mindset and develop your boundaries.

Never give anyone else the power to change the way you think or are.

Your thoughts,your values and your personality is what  makes you you.

 Once the damage is done it can be hard to find yourself again.

Just because someone is popular,louder or has more friends doesn’t mean theyre superior and that you need to change just to fit in.

You handing over your independence,throwing away your god given right to autonomy is just you showing people your impressionable and that can make you more susceptible to people taking advantage of you. 

Obviously some people can have a positive influence on you,yet its important to recognise if that influence is hindering you or helping you to grow.

Let them theory

If people want to exclude you,disrespect you,talk bad about you,insult you let them.

Let them show you their true colours,you don’t need to interrupt them,change the subject,feel responsible for changing them or make excuses for their behaviour.

Instead of wasting your energy fighting for their attention or approval you can quietly note their behaviour and choose how much space they get in your life.

Don’t fight for a familiar hell when theres unfamiliar heavens waiting for you.

You cant change people

The truth is you can’t actually change a person.You cant keep communicating if they cant  actually comprehend.

Triying to fix someone is exhausting and it shows just how one-sided the freindship really is.

 At some point you need to accept that you’ve done what you could and now its time to move on and put yourself and those who genuinely care about you first.

Of course humans have slipups-everyone makes mistakes,but the difference is whether someone takes responsibility and tries to do better or whether  they keep repeating the same behaviour without caring how it affects you.

That’s when you need to leave and then they’ll realise what they have missed out on.

Forgive but dont forget

A lot of people associate forgiveness with being weak-that it means your letting someone get away with something or that you don’t have any self respect.

The truth is forgiveness takes courage,self-control and immense strength.

Its about freeing yourself from the burning sensations of anger and resentment which can lead to revenge which will leave you always never satisfied.

 However forgiving doesn’t mean forgetting.If you forget,you risk repeating the same challenge or letting yourself get hurt again.

The real power comes from releasing this emotional burden while remebering and integrating the lesson. 

Psychology calls this protective learning,you grow from experience,strenthen your boundaries and learn who and what to trust.

 You  shift the focus from what they’ve done to focus all that energy into yourself and your goals.

Forgiveness is a choice not a feeling,its okay to feel angry and hatred for the other person,were not all angels but the diffference is you not letting it consume your life and reclaiming peace  because forgiveness really will benefit the victim more than the perpetrator.

If your religious a good tip is that if God can forgive then why cant we?

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